I'm lost

I just wrote a check for $3,000 to help pops into an assisted living facility. I have written dozens of checks for greater amounts in my life time but never one more difficult. I knew this day would come but I thought we would have a few more month. I keep telling myself its not like I'm shipping him off, it's more like he's getting an apartment close by. Which in reality is exactly what happening.

The place where he goes to during the day is the place where he will be living soon. They had two apartments left and I was fearful that if I waited any longer it might be a long long time before I could get him in if there was an urgent need. They have a guest speaker coming who specializes i Alzheimer's Dementia and according to sources when he speaks at a facilities they fills up quickly and a waiting list is created. In addition to that long term issue I have a short term need. This is also the same place I took Pops when I had to go to Bothell WA a few months ago for business. This is coming up again next month after the time which the speaker is scheduled and once those room are gone they can not offer respite care. So the hand was forced and I didn't see any alternative. Believe me I looked.

I will not talk to Pops about it, there isn't any point in doing that. I will have to talk to his brother and inform him of the decision. His brother lives in close by Orange. He would make it out here to visit with his wife every few months but hasn't been here in four or so months. More than likely to do his recent diagnosis of Parkinson's. As dad always say to me, "Jeff, don't get old".

Dad's soon to be new home: http://www.aegisliving.com/aegis_lifes_neighborhood